3 ways of managing yourself without hike/promotion
Most organisations would have recently announced pay rise, promotions for their employees during this season. Thanks to the normal distribution curve (also referred to as bell-curve, Gaussian distribution), a handful may get a pay rise and promotion. Some may not get any pay rise; many may not get the promotion they wanted. Some may get neither. If you are the fortunate one that did get both or either, congratulations!
While there was the sale and offers up for grabs at various counters, I got attracted to the camera counter. I put the Nikon DSLR camera inside my baggage. I left with Bashir for breaking fast that evening in the local mosque.
1. Manage your inside to manage your outside:
I vividly recall my experience one particular mid-year performance cycle. I had put in sweat and blood. I was of the firm view that I meritoriously deserved promotion and pay rise. While not getting it impacted me, also the fact that some of my under-achieving colleagues (from my map of the world) had got their share proved detrimental to my mental balance. I took a long recess and stepped out of the workplace. I went to a secluded place, vented my emotion. I hurled out verbal abuse and gave myself twenty minutes to play the victim. Once I knew the inventory got depleted, I triggered my anchor to get back to the desired resourceful state. I went back to my office floor and heartily congratulated those that had received their accolades. I insist that I congratulate when I say that from deep within.
We were at the Emirates Mall. Welli and Ajesh were posing for a picture; they were standing overlooking the atrium. I was behind the Nikon DSLR. Click, click, click. I allowed the camera to do all the hard work of focusing, determining the adequacy of light. Welli quickly walked towards me after I finished clicking. He told me straight that that isn’t how you shoot! I gladly handed the camera to him and went to pose next to Ajesh. At the end of the posing sequence, Welli made a casual remark that I owned a DSLR but did not know how to shoot. It hurt me. It angered me. His words were factually correct. This was not about Welli. It was about me. My aspiration. My inaction.
Not getting that pay rise or promotion (or both) may have a different and possibly deep meaning for you. Share your thoughts about it with a confidante. If you do not have a confidante or maybe not okay to share your situation with anyone else, then write down your thoughts.
- Begin by labelling the emotion(s)
- Mention the effect of this situation on you and beyond (family, work)
- Ask yourself if there is anything you can do now to lessen the effect.
- Check with yourself if it is okay to park the issue for consideration at a future moment
2. A bend in the road means slow down, not halt
I chose to sleep over it and consider it the following day. When I woke up the next morning, I felt as if an iron boulder had been removed from my chest during the overnight sleep cycle. The light feeling helped me into a resourceful state. During the course of the day, I walked into the glass office of my super boss. I stepped in and enquired about what I had to do to move to the next level. In hindsight, the way I asked made all the difference. I was willing to listen. I was fully present. After he finished, I thanked him for his inputs.
Had I walked into having this chat the previous day, I may not have been in a resourceful state. As a result, the effect on my super boss may not have been desirable.
- Trigger your most resourceful state.
- Ask the significant person what you have to do to begin moving the pointer towards the desired result.
- Listen. Be present.
- Exit with a thank you. Keep it simple.
The presumption here is that you enjoy good rapport with the significant person (someone at work whose opinion counts towards your growth).
3. Go full throttle
He told me in clear words what he expected of me. I sought clarification and paraphrased the conversation. From then on, I was a man on a mission. And, yes, I did get my pay hike, promotion and change in designation. However, what I learnt in those 6 months leading to the D-day is invaluable.
- Having had a chat on what needs to happen for you to get there, put a game plan that is true to who you are.
- Put in action. Massive action.
- To show that you are invested in your growth and development, have milestones between now and next performance measurement.
- Set up periodic performance chat during this period. Dip check.
- Calibrate action based on periodic performance chat.
Well, some people have a way of complicating simple things. And some people have a way of simplifying complicated things. Where you believe you belong determines how you will go about this moment.
And here is a bonus. It is a little secret that a significant few know. Here it is for you. People who set their criterion of growth and success go beyond the rituals of promotions, labels of designations and the sheer numbers game. What matters to them is personal & professional significance. Their switch of reward & recognition lies within. They don’t let others control their growth. So that is the beginning of real personal leadership. Those on this journey leave the signature of their craft in every piece of their work & beyond. Interestingly, the perception of their work becomes play. Also, the world joins the party at this stage; which may or may not matter to them anymore.